Most young people can hardly wait to be on their own. They instinctively feel great powers and possibilities within themselves, they have high hopes and dreams. Yet these same persons a few years later may be very unhappy at the thought of being on their own. A loss of someone on whom they have come to depend, perhaps the trauma of divorce, leaves them feeling vulnerable and alone.
Being on our own does not mean being deserted, it does not mean that we are without help, it does not mean that we are alone. Being on their own is rightly perceived by the young as important to growth, important to maturity, important to the expression of their God-given powers and possibilities.
In a sense, we always are and always must be on our own. No one else can think for us, no one else can meet life for us, no one else can know our inner longings, desires, and goals. So even when we say, “But I don’t want to be on my own,” still it is what we must be.
We can be on our own but not alone. While in a sense we are always on our own, there is also a sense in which we are never on our own. There is never a time when we have only our human resources on which to depend.